Don’t you hate it when your alarm goes off in the morning and your first thoughts are something like:
“Nooooo, I finally fell asleep after hours of lying here thinking about everything I haven’t gotten done yet and I can’t handle dealing with my insane schedule again.”
I’ve got some good news and some bad news for you.
The bad news:
- This feeling will probably come back again at some point. No matter how hard you try to control things sometimes s@#% happens and life just gets crazy.
The good news (there is so much more good news than bad news):
- There is absolutely something to be done to change this situation. Hooray!
- This feeling of overwhelm is just that... a feeling, and all feelings eventually pass.
- Accepting the fact that the “bad news” is a reality will save you a ton of energy as opposed to walking in circles in your living room mumbling about how frustrated you are that this is happening again (don’t even try to pretend that you’ve never done that).
It is time to do some major Zooming Out and get real about all that is actually going on in your life.
- Do one of my favorite stress relievers, A Brain Dump. Get everything out of your head and onto paper. I know I’m so old-timey but I think there is a really powerful release that happens when you put pen to paper, partially because it’s a course interrupt from our second hand relationship with technology... but I digress.
- If you look at your list and think “Ahhhhh, everything I’m doing is super important and it all needs to be done yesterday and now I’m five minutes behind because I just wrote this stupid list.” Sit down right where you are, close your eyes, and take three long slow deep breaths!
- Now look at your list again and use the following questions to help you trim the fat from your schedule.
- Can any of this be done by someone else? (Notice if you’re doing everything because you don’t want to BURDEN other people with these tasks. You’ll never know until you ask.)
- Is there anything on this list that you hate doing? (Notice if it’s something like pay my taxes vs organize the next board meeting for my apartment building. You may hate both of those but only one is a NON-NEGOTABLE.)
- Can any of this be done later i.e. next month or quarter or year? (Notice if you are being overly ambitious with your time and trying to shove in projects right now that realistically can’t and won’t get done right now and are just making you feel bad that your aren’t being more PRODUCTIVE.)
- Do all of these bigger projects light you up when you picture yourself doing them? (Notice if you describe some of them as making yourself REALLY PROUD because you’d be accomplishing something that you didn’t think you could do or you could do it but it would be a ton of work, take lots of time, and would be an energy suck.)
- Finally, look at your list once more and bravely cross off one or two more thing(s) that you’ve turned into an obligation but isn’t really.
Remember, you can do anything... just not all at the same time. So, go get trimming!