Notice How Many Times a Day you
Make a Judgement
When I say judgment I’m talking specifically about putting things into opinion categories like, “This piece of cake is so bad for me.”, “I shouldn’t have told him I had feelings for him.” or “You’re in really good shape.”
I realize that last one seems like it would be a really nice thing to hear or say. That may be true but the point is to notice how ingrained of a habit judgment is for you. The fact that the cake has sugar, butter and eggs in it doesn’t make it bad or good those are just facts. We’ve all gotten pretty adept at strengthening our judgment muscles so I challenge you to practice strengthening your fact-stating muscles.
This is not to say I don’t believe people should have opinions about things. Trust me I have lots of opinions. I’m just suggesting that a lot of our judgments may be really unconscious and potentially not based on the facts of the situation right in front of you. Instead they may be judgments that have been twisted over time based on your perception of something that may or may not have happened years ago.
Judgments can turn into a slippery slope where suddenly we begin believing that our judgments of things and ourselves are actually facts. Especially, the ones that make us feel sad, mad or frightened like "I’m unlovable", "I’m unattractive", "This project I’ve been working on is a waste of time".
Here’s an exercise to test out.
Set an alarm for 2 mins and look around and say out loud what is a fact based on what you can see. Notice how many times you slip into judgments (positive or negative). For example, those are white orchids as opposed to those orchids are pretty.
Tell us in the comments below about your relationship to judgement and what, if anything, you learned from doing this exercise.