It’s 2016… the year you’re really going to get your s*#@ together. Ok. Now what?
Tired of making another resolution that you abandon a few weeks later? I hear you. Having the same items on your To-Do list over and over again can be discouraging.
Resolution: A firm decision to do or not to do something. Honestly, reading that stresses me out. There is nothing firm about our lives so why set yourself up for disappointment? I say we throw out that word altogether and test out the word theme instead.
Theme: The particular subject or idea on which the style of something is based. I’m feeling more relaxed already.
Hold up, don’t go anywhere yet. Let’s break down how this theme thing is going to work.
Step 1: Who Do You Need to Be
Before you can get anywhere you have to have an idea of where you want to go, otherwise you’ll never know when you’ve arrived. This is your chance to use your imagination and experience this new awesome life of yours.
Once you’ve got a clear picture in your mind of what your future looks like, decide what kind of a person you need to be in order to live that way.
This is your theme for the year. For example, for me 2016 is The Year of Bravery. Maybe yours is something like The Year of Loving Kindness, The Year of Generosity, or The Year of Fun.
Step 2: Create Mini-Challenges
Now it’s time to throw down the gauntlet with yourself and step into being that person matching your theme. Maybe it would be helpful to imagine a knight in a full set of armor, or your future self, or your idol challenging you to take 2 bubble baths this week or to volunteer 4 times this month or to say yes to 6 social events over the next 6 weeks. Then you must accept your challenge.
The idea is to make it fun and push yourself to the point of “well that seems like a little too much” because that’s the sign that you're doing things differently.
Step 3: Accountability
There’s no need to feel like you need to go it alone. I guarantee there are tons of other people on the same mission. If you keep your new plan a secret it will be too easy to slide your way out of following through because nobody knew that you were doing it in the first place.
-Make a pact with a friend and check in daily/weekly/monthly
-Join a Meetup group
-Sign up for a class
-Start a mastermind group
-Work with a coach… I happen to know a really good one, I’m just sayin’.
-Tell EVERYONE you talk to about your theme for the year
It makes people feel good to help, so really do it for them.
Step 4: Record and Rejoice
For this new way of doing things to really stick you need to see results. Check out the need for esteem on humanist psychologist Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, I know fancy, right? The key is to keep a visual record of what you’ve done so you can look back at any point and gloat (to yourself, of course) about how far you’ve come.
Even better than gloating would be celebrating.
It’s essentially your Re-Birthday and why not celebrate the new you.
Give yourself some kind of treat, prize, or party. How about rocking out to your favorite dance song, a new pair of shoes, or a trip to somewhere fun.
Ultimately, this is about living the life now that you dream of in the future. Everyone has the ability to be successful in whatever way they envision. The difference is, successful people choose to start living as if they are already successful right now. (Drop the mic. and walk off stage.)